“Two men peer through the same bars: one sees the muck, the other the stars.”
A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts, Frederick Langbridge
Do you know what you get if you look for synonyms for the word Optimist? Idealist, Romantic, Visionary, Utopian, Hoper!!! That last one really threw me. The Thesaurus in Word must have been complied in the last century. It’s been proven over and over again that people who are optimistic attract more of everything good into their lives. More wealth and abundance, more love and laughter, more happy families, and relationships.
You must constantly make choices in life. You can choose your perspective to be negative and self-defeating, or you can choose to be an optimist and live a challenging and meaningful life.
How and Why
Optimists expect (not hope) the best and they get it.
Pessimists expect the worst, and they get that too.
The truth is that optimists face the same challenges as everyone else – they just see them differently and they look on unwelcome outcomes as simply temporary setbacks. They will also see each setback as an opportunity for learning or as holding a gift they hadn’t noticed previously.
They will never say (or think) that things will never get better or wait for the axe to fall again, and again. Positive expectancies of optimists also predict better reactions during things like changing jobs or moving location, disasters, and unexpected disappointments.
In the words of Chumbawamba “I get knocked down, but I get back up again.” If optimists fall, they will stand up. They see opportunities instead of obstacles.
People respond better to optimists
Optimists are usually great at taking the initiative and are less reliant on others for their happiness. They see no reason to influence or control others and because of this energy, people are naturally drawn to them. As well as that, their positive outlook on life inspires those around them.
It’s optimistic people like these who frequently win elections, are voted most popular, and are sought out for advice.
Resilience is second-nature to optimists
Optimists are able to maintain more constant levels of well-being throughout stressful situations than pessimists. Pessimists, on the other hand, will often deny the existence of stressful situations or simply avoid dealing with them altogether. Pessimists often give up when faced with a challenge while optimists will look for a way around, over or under – any route to get to the other side.
They keep going. They don’t give up easily and are known for their patience.
Optimists live longer and are healthier
Simple pleasures and a happy mindset, according to a Psychology Today 2016 study, can create a measurable growth in the body’s ability to resist illness.
The health of optimists is unusually good. They age well, are not so afflicted by the regular physical problems of middle age, then their peers and they outlive those who are prone to negative thinking.
It’s not difficult to live a more fulfilling life
Telling yourself what you don’t want to happen is like having an open house for your neighbourhood – the neighbours you don’t like are going to turn up and earlier than those neighbours you’re looking forward to seeing.
Watch your thoughts. Change the words. Use I will instead of I won’t. Say Yes instead of No. If you feel angry or depressed, smile.
And watch how your perspective changes to make your life happier and more enjoyable.